We don’t agree with everybody and Everytime in our day to day lives.Sometimes we get offended, sometimes just feel hopeless and sometimes we get so involve in the argument that it just spoils our day.
I know I know , we like to be correct most of the times and specially it is difficult to feel wrong when the other person is someone we just don’t like or somebody younger (Obviously, we have experienced life more than them).
Here are some things that may help :
- Listen completely:
Yes, Happened with me recently, I was arguing about something with my friend and we were so involved proving our points that we couldn’t understand that both of us were saying almost similar things but in different ways.So first if we let the other person say all that they want to and then we decide we agree to that or not, it would be a lot better than wasting your energy at the first place.May be you do agree.
- Don’t argue , Discuss :
We all know the difference,the basic difference is in our tone and the kind of words you are using.When we discuss, we are more calm and we try to be logical.We listen and if we agree to even some part of it ,we acknowledge that.We try to reach a common conclusion rather than just proving ourselves right.
- Its okay to be wrong sometimes:
Has it happened to you ever? When you start discussing about something, you feel you just cant be wrong about it and on the way you kind of accept that the other person is more right about it.But now its a war and you cant lose it so you just keep trying to prove your point. C’mon we all are wrong sometimes,there is no shame accepting that,You are not a super human that you would know everything.
- Summarize what you have understood till now:
Sometimes we keep arguing and the discussion is not reaching any where so better summarize what exactly your point is and what have you understood about the other person’s point of view.This way we can avoid to enter the loop of same arguments.
- Agree To Disagree:
In this big big world, everybody’s point of view depends on their own experiences and their exposure and ofcourse their believes.So sometimes neither us nor the other person is going to agree.So it is good to agree to disagree and Move.
Wish you a great day !
God bless you!